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Are long distance relationships worth the effort? As a professional dating coach who offers a personal matchmaking service for affluent men, I’m often asked this question by many of my clients. On the surface, a long distance relationship seems like a great way to get to know someone. You can write long emails, talk on the phone for hours, and learn as much as possible about one another until you get to see them in person. While it might help build a solid foundation for companionship, a long distance relationship doesn’t have what it takes to keep a relationship afloat. Here’s why:
Adds to Existing Problems
Traditional relationships in which two people get to see each other on a regular basis are hard enough. Why add to the problems by distance? Long distance relationships not only exasperate existing problems, but create new ones. That’s why when clients request my matchmaking services in NYC, I do my best to match them up with others who live in the same area.
Making Up is Hard to Do
When two people get into an argument, it’s important for both of them to be in the same room so they can have the intimacy they need to work things out. For example, body language is impossible to judge over the phone or via email and text. Emotions are also hard to read in writing or over the phone. Even if two people are able to solve their issues long distance, they can’t show affection and do the things normal couples do when they make up.
New York Socials is a high end dating service in NYC that offers professional matchmaking services for affluent men.
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This is an age-old story I often hear while providing high end dating services in NYC: You meet a girl online or at a party. You start texting and flirting and allow yourself to believe you may have found the woman of your dreams. You can’t wait for the first date and count minutes until you are together. And then you finally meet and while you are still just as excited, at the end of the date you start to feel she is withdrawn and cold. When you lean in for a kiss, you get a side of her cheek and a corner of an ear (if you’re lucky). When you text her again, the response is “I had a lovely time, but I don’t think this will work out.” So what happened? As a relationship coach in NYC, I’ve heard many reasons why women get turned off during a first date. Here are the top three:
Gentlemen, please give some thought to the way you present yourselves. Remember, first impressions last a lifetime. Women are uncomfortable and embarrassed to be seen with men that are dressed sloppily and /or inappropriately. Call the venue of your date to ask them about a dress code. When you are not sure, ask a friend who is known to be a good dresser, or, better yet, ask another woman for advice: your friend/sister/cousin, etc. (make sure it is not someone who will deliberately steer you in the wrong direction -i.e. ex girlfriend). Finally when in doubt, remember it’s better to be over then under dressed. In the words of Oscar Wilde: You can never be overdressed or overeducated.
The Creep Factor
If you notice a look of disgust or fear in your date’s face, chances are you have entered the ‘creep zone.’ Certain words and phrases, such as ‘baby-doll’, ‘pussycat’, ‘honey face’, will not only scare your date, but will make her want to put out a public announcement warning other women to stay away.
She agreed to go out with you. So don’t be overly thankful to her or tell her how her beauty overshadows your meaningless existence or keep asking why a girl like that would want to go out with a loser like you. Remember, confidence is sexy. No woman wants to spend her time and effort on building up your ego.
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Is dating in the summertime any different from dating during the rest of the year? While the basics of dating aren’t different, there are many things that change along with the arrival of a new season, such as the weather, style, and food. If you’re seeing someone during the warmest months of the year, here are a few tips on how to date during summertime.
Summer is all about enjoying the great outdoors. But if you live in a city like New York, the heat and humidity can get intense. While it’s a great idea to get outside in the summer, avoid planning a date between 10 a.m. and 4 p.m. — the hottest times of the day and when the UV rays are the most dangerous. Skip that afternoon hike and instead go for an evening stroll. Try to plan your dates in air conditioned restaurants and locations. A sunset dinner, an evening drink, or a movie in an air conditioned theater are all great ideas. If you are a member of the high end dating service, New York Socials, you can rest assured that your socials will be held at some of the finest restaurants in the city, all of which are classy, comfortable, and, of course, air conditioned.
A new season always calls for new fashion, especially as the weather warms up. In warmer climate, it’s time to bring out lighter fabrics and materials. If you’re planning to wear a suit, put away your wool suit and wear a cotton or linen suit. The same rule applies for dress shirts, pants, and nice shorts.
But just because it’s hot outside doesn’t mean you can wear flip-flops. Always dress appropriately according to the event and dress code. If you need assistance with developing your personal style or additional tips on what to wear during a summer date, consult New York Socials. In addition to its NYC matchmaker services, New York Socials provides image consulting.
Summertime is a season rich in fruits and vegetables. Embrace summer foods by going to restaurants that serve dishes made with seasonal foods. If you’re planning to cook for your date, go to the farmer’s market and purchase seasonal ingredients for your special dish.
Another way to embrace summer foods is to avoid going to restaurants that serve mostly heavy meals. When planning a date, go to a restaurant that offers light and fresh meals. Drink light cocktails and don’t forget to order cool dessert.
New York Socials is an elite dating club that offers personal matchmaking services for affluent men.